Does pre-mature ejaculation cast a dark cloud over your full enjoyment of sex? If so, you are not alone. Millions of other men suffer in silence because they can not go the distance during sex. There is good news! Here are a few tips that can help you gain control and last long enough to satisfy your woman.
First, let us get a clear understanding of exactly what pre-mature ejaculation really is. Pre-mature ejaculation is simply climaxing before you intended and just as importantly, before your partner is sexually satisfied.
Let’s look at the numbers. The average man climaxes after only 2-3 minutes of thrusting inside the woman’s vagina. However, the average woman requires at least 10 minutes of sexual intercourse before she reaches an orgasm. It’s easy to see that the numbers don’t add up.
Usually, the average man climaxes way before the woman has had a chance to reach her first orgasm. As a result, there are a lot of sexually frustrated women out there who are not being satisfied.
Contrary to what a lot of women think, most men aren’t selfish when it comes to a woman’s sexual gratification. Men want to be able to fully satisfy their women and it is a source of extreme frustration they aren’t able to do it.
Before we get to the actually tips on how to last longer during sex, let’s look at how most men trained themselves to "cum" too quickly.
It usually starts early in life. While the young boy is masturbating, he tries to rush and finish before any one discovers what he is doing.
Another way he trains himself to cum faster is by visiting prostitutes. With prostitutes, time is money so they try to squeeze in as many men as they can. They demand that the young man finish as soon as possible. Thus begins a pattern of climaxing quickly.
The first way to begin to take control is through physical relaxation. Usually, when a man is too tense and anxious to please a woman, he looses control of his love muscles and climaxes before he’s ready.
Being physically relaxed also helps you to mentally relax. It requires tension of the love muscles to reach climax. If you can relax you can gain greater control over your love muscles.
Here’s a simple relaxation exercise. Find a place to lay down where you will not be disturbed for at least 10 minutes. Lay on your back with your arms and legs apart. Take 3 deep breathes inhaling for 4 seconds, holding your breathe for 4 seconds and slowly exhaling for 4 seconds while mentally saying r-e-l-ax.
Now, tense the right leg muscles gently and hold for a count of ten seconds. Now, do the same for your left leg. Next, tense your abdominal muscle. Next, tense your chest muscles. Then your neck muscles. Lastly, tense your facial muscles.
Now, lay there for another five minutes with your muscles relaxed. Now you know exactly what it feels like when you are tense and when you are relaxed.
Something else that can help you last longer is to pace your self during sexual intercourse. Some men dive right into sex jack rabbit style, pumping in and out very rapidly. You should engage in foreplay first and really warm her up for intercourse.
Then you should proceed slowly during intercourse. Find your rhythm first, then gradually speed up. You will begin to feel a sense of control.
So, as you can see, there are steps you can take to last longer during sex. Learn to relax and pace yourself during intercourse. With a little time and practice you will be able to go the distance.
Monday, September 29, 2008
How to Develope High Self Esteem!
BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM, A STARTER GUIDE TO SELF IMPROVEMENT
So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.
Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?
Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work EnvironmentBeware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.
Dart Pin #2: Other People’s BehaviorBulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.
Dart Pin #3: Changing EnvironmentYou can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.
Dart Pin #4: Past ExperienceIt’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.
Dart Pin #5: Negative World ViewLook at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.
Dart Pin #6: Determination TheoryThe way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.
Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you – “George, you may now have the permission to build self esteem and improve your self.”
So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.
Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?
Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work EnvironmentBeware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.
Dart Pin #2: Other People’s BehaviorBulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.
Dart Pin #3: Changing EnvironmentYou can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.
Dart Pin #4: Past ExperienceIt’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.
Dart Pin #5: Negative World ViewLook at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.
Dart Pin #6: Determination TheoryThe way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.
Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you – “George, you may now have the permission to build self esteem and improve your self.”
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
Posts
